Marriage is like a full-time investment for women in her life as a daughter in law, wife, and mother. But the role of a daughter and sister is neglected in our society.
The patriarchal norms prevalent in our society have conditioned women so much that they don’t have time to meet their families. In some instances, they don’t even have time for their selves because it is said “Thoda baradsht karna sikhna chahiye aurton ko”.It is the woman who feels that she is not able to play a role of a daughter or a sister. She misses the time when everyone used to get together and enjoy either by talking or playing with family.She is only left with the role of the daughter in law, wife, and a mother.
It hurts me so much when we hear or see that it is the daughter-in-laws doing everything and nobody even offers to help .Is this the reason why her parents get her married? Should not be !!As everyone human being has some dreams and aspirations and most importantly she needs to live for her self.
She is the one who wakes up early in the morning, does all the household chores, and does everything possible and impossible things to keep her family happy. Yet, what she gets in return is domestic violence which she quietly faces. But now the times have changed, every woman is aware of her rights and she doesn’t stop till she is not able to achieve what she wants.
Marriage shouldn’t feel like a burden to a woman. Basically what every girl wants is RESPECT which in our country is most of the time not given. If you respect anyone they will also respect you. However, if you hit her to be ready for repercussions.
Recently, I saw Thappad, a movie starring Tapsee as a lead actor. The story revolved around a slap. For our society and some men, it is just a slap but you have no right or authority to slap anyone .that single slap could change a woman’s life and that’s how Tapsee’s life changed in a second. It is so common to hear these days from our maids that yesterday “my husband was drunk and he hit me hard” .Their are very few women who stand up for this situation properly. A man should understand that we are not robots whenever you want you can do anything. It is so sad to see where a woman giving up a career for her family, where a woman is told to stay silent but this was maybe an old tradition.
As we are in the 21st century the mindsets have been changing. The families are opening to new law and order. Society has also started thinking about what it means for a woman to be respected. For her, her reputation matters the most and as time changes that have been taken care of.
On the occasion of MOTHER’S DAY, I would like to say it is time for you to fight back now and stop domestic violence and harassment .There are various women helpline numbers and, places where you can reach and get help as soon as possible. You can always talk to your family and friends. You cant always feel traumatized. I hope all mothers, daughters, sisters, mothers-in-law live a peaceful and blissful life.
“MOTHER IS A BEHAVIOUR . TO LOVING SOMEONE FROM BOTTOM OF YOUR HEART IS A BEHAVIOUR SND AS I ALWAYS SAY MOTHER IS BEYOND GENDER, IT COULD BE A WOMAN, FATHER SND A TRANSGENDER, IT COULD BE ANYONE”